GOALS OF THE
This is a
simple exercise designed to help clients think about and identity
their current grief stage, as well as the grief-work tasks
associated with each stage.
SITUATIONS FOR WHICH THIS EXERCISE MAY BE MOST USEFUL
This exercise will help clients think
about their current grief-work stage, thus helping them identity the
sort of emotional, behavioral, and life-management tasks they may have
already completed, are facing at the moment, or are yet to face. This
is an especially useful exercise for helping therapists and clients
identify current concerns and issues, and for setting the pace for
PROCESSING THIS EXERCISE WITH CLIENTS
Are there specific questions you
need to answer for yourself before continuing with your grief work ?
Do you have a clear sense of the
sorts of issues, feelings, and tasks that you'll be facing in your
grief work ?
Have you ever experienced feelings
of this sort before ?
Why do you think you're having
these particular feelings ?
Are you afraid your feelings will
never pass ?
Are the problems you're
experiencing so severe or debilitating that you're having trouble
functioning in your day-to-day life ?
How did you feel as you were
completing the exercise ?
OF GRIEF: GETTING LOCATED
on the descriptions of the grief continuum and the stages of grief,
circle the letter that most closely describes where you are right now
with each task: A = I'm not ready to deal with this task; B = I'm
working on this task; C = I've completed this task.
Stage 1 Tasks
A B C
A B C
Stage 2 Tasks
letting go A
personal values and beliefs A
Stage 3 Tasks
social relations A
changes in life style
A B C
You're now aware of the stages of grief and how they typically
progress, with respect to each of the emotional and practical tasks
of grief work.
Look at the answers you've circled above
and write down your answers
on the following work page.
1. Which four tasks are the most relevant to you now, in your
current grief stage ?
2. What do the tasks you've picked tell you about your current
grief work ?
3. What's your current grief
(If it's difficult for you to easily identify your
current grief stage, go directly to the next question.)
4. Was it difficult for you to easily identify your current
grief stage ?
If so, why ?
5. What are your thoughts as you complete this exercise ?
6. What are your feelings as you complete this exercise ?
Remember to bring
the completed worksheet to your next appointment.